How to Get Over the Grief of a Cheating Husband

How do you begin to get over the grief of a cheating husband? It isn't easy and it will take a lot of time. Everyone will handle this process differently. Some will heal slowly and others will never be able to get over the fact that their husband cheated on them.

This is a very serious and slow process. The pain doesn't go away overnight. Unfortunately, you may be able to forgive your cheating husband in time, but you will never forget what happened. It will always be a part of your deep memory. However, try to move on.

DO:

1. Continue talking to your husband. In order for you to get over your pain, he has to be willing to talk to you and answer your questions about what happened and why. In addition, you and your husband have to talk about the future of your relationship.

2. Take time to heal and understand your feelings. Take the time to get over the shock and determine what you are going to do next. Are you willing to forgive your husband. Do you want a divorce. You need time to digest a lot of information.

3. Have an open mind. Make your decision, but make them with a clear mind. Remember, if you don't get closure on this situation, you will take this baggage to your next relationship. You don't want to punish the next man for your husband's illicit affair.

4. Get Marriage Counseling. If your husband is serious about regaining your trust and forgiveness, he should participate in marriage counseling. You and your husband will probably need a third party to help put your marriage back on track.

DON'T:

1. Don't Blame Yourself. This was not your problem. You didn't do anything wrong. Your husband violated your marriage vows. You didn't do anything to justify his cheating. If there were problems within your marriage, your husband should have confronted you about them and gone outside of your marriage.

2. Don't contact the other woman. She is not the problem at this point. She never was the problem. Your husband is the problem. If it wasn't this particular woman, it would have been another one. Questioning the other woman will not help to put your marriage back on track.

Getting over a cheating husband is a very hard and painful thing to do; however, with time you will be able to go on with your life.