Have You Met Your Cheater's Mother?

Have you met your cheater’s mother? Quite naturally if you are married to your cheater, you are very aware of your mother-in-law. If you are only dating your cheater, chances are you have not had the opportunity to meet your cheating unfaithful man’s mother. Meeting a man’s mother can tell you a lot about your cheater and how he views women in general. You can get this type of insight in two different ways.

First, what is his mother’s personality like? How does she interact with her husband or significant other? Is she the type of woman that would not tolerate cheating? Or is she mild-mannered and goes with the flow? It is often said that a cheating man will only cheat if a woman lets him. If one woman leaves, he will go on to the next woman that will let him continue his cheating ways. A cheating man knows the type of woman that will let him cheat. If he grew up in a home in which cheating was tolerated, then he is going to expect the same type of husband and wife interaction when he grows up. Why? He was exposed to it as a child.

Second, how does your cheating unfaithful man interact with his mother? Does he treat her with respect? If he does, then he will probably treat you with respect as well. This concept may not apply to you if he was exposed to cheating as a child. However, it is good to know that you have a better chance of being treated with respect if he has a decent relationship with his mom. It shows that he is capable of respecting women. On the other hand, if he has a distant or non-existent relationship with his mother, it offers some insight into why he is not able to fully commit to or respect women.

This logic may sound crazy, but if a little boy grows up knowing that daddy has another woman down the street and mama ignores it, then he is going to grow up thinking that this type of behavior is acceptable. His assumption is “If it was good enough for mama, then it should be good enough for you too. This is what men do. Men cheat! That’s the way things have always been.” Sound familiar? Let it marinate.