Am I Asking Him Too Many Questions?

Are you asking your cheater too many questions? Why are you even asking THIS question? The simple answer is "has he answered all of your questions?" Yes, I answered a question with a question.


Let's try this again. No, you are not asking too many questions if you still have unanswered questions rolling around in your head. He had an affair. You have zillions of questions. If your cheating man wants to reconcile and rebuild your relationship, then he should want to put forth the effort and answer your questions.


He may not want to answer all of your questions, but if he wants to regain your trust, he has to be willing to do everything within reason to ease any of your fears or concerns. Yes, I said within reason. You probably are going to want to know every explicit detail, but is that really helpful?


For example, you might want to know what type of sex he had with her and if you ask this question, he should answer it. However, do you really need to ask 5 or 6 other questions for the details? The details will probably hurt you even more. You know what happens during sex. Connect the dots...briefly and move on. Don't make yourself nauseated and angry with the details.


If you need answers, he needs to provide these answers . You have every right to them. He should never ever try to skip around a topic if you try to nail him down. But, remember, seek and you shall find. Don't get mad at him if he does not give you the answers that you want to hear. Sure, ask as many questions that it will take in order to help you during your cheating grieving process. However, don't ask if you aren't able to handle the truth.