How Does Infidelity Begin?

How do you think it all began? I'll tell you how the cheating began...innocently. Many times when your cheating man says that "things just happened," he is really telling the truth. Unless your cheating man is a hardcore man who never intended to be faithful to you, then he may very well be telling the truth.


Should he get a medal? No! I'm not saying that you should be okay with this, but understand that the average man that is in a committed relationship is not always on the prowl looking for someone to cheat with. However, your cheater is still at fault because many times, he could have prevented the situation from the very beginning.


This is because he allowed himself to be in a situation that could only get worst. Just as I referenced to in my last post, committed men should not put themselves in situations in which they are alone with other women. For example, lunches with female co-workers...this is a oh-no moment. It should never exist.


Technically, he isn't actually cheating, but if he consistently has lunches with the same women, then it is most definitely a major problem. He is getting closer to another woman. It lays the foundation for the "Things just sort of happened" scenario. In this situation, anything could very well happen. But, if he had not allowed these lunches to continue, then maybe the affair would not have started in the first place.


Consider this scenario. What if you and your man are having minor problems and he confides in his female co-worker? What if she has ulterior motives and wants to take your man for herself? He might not have any intentions of starting an affair, but she may send out additional signals that she is available or interested. If she approaches him on one of those days when the two of you just had a terrible fight, then this could be the beginning of an innocent affair. "Things just happened."


There was some type of emotional connection. At that moment, she appeared as the good Samaritan and you, as the crazy witch . Most women want to think that their men are strong enough to wade through the temptation, but many times they aren't.


The bottom line is many times "things do just happen." But Why? Why did he let them happen? What was going on in your relationship in order for him to let his guard down? Did he let his guard down or was it never up?


Yes, the proverbial other woman comes along everyday. But what's going on in your relationship that allows her to come along and snatch your man away? Did something happen to change his sense of commitment? Or, maybe he was never really committed to you after all. What do you think? What really made him cheat? Try to dig deep and find an answer.